Why do Women Feel Insecure in a Relationship? By Rohita Sateesh

Why do Women Feel Insecure in a Relationship? By Rohita Sateesh

Being in love is enriching and exciting, as it brings along a bag full of surprises that we discover about ourselves and our partner.

Initially, we embrace it with a lot of happiness and joy, but eventually‘something’ changes, and we find ourselves putting in efforts to feel ‘loved’! It is worth noting that every phenomenon has a flip side and so is the case with ‘love’.

Being in a relationship, it’s only fair to talk about our side of the story; because in all reality, that’s the only thing we can change!  So, let’s try and find some answers for our resolution.

What are these ‘issues’?

Lot of my clients have come out sharing that the problem comes when they feel ‘insecure’ and their partner is oblivious of the existence of these insecurities. So, the answer to this question is our ‘insecurities’.

As women, all of us, at some stage in the relationship feel insecure. While the magnitude and reason for insecurity may vary; we must admit that our insecurities do interfere with our happiness and our love life.

Where do these ‘insecurities’ come from?

Well, the answer is ‘you’! Yes, it is we who nurture these discomforts and seek resolution from others. We feel insecure when our needs from the relationship does not get fulfilled.

These needs could include, feeling physically attractive, feeling reassured, feeling loved, feeling committed, feeling respected, feeling equal, feeling sure, etc.

When our expectations of these ‘needs’ are not fulfilled by our partner, we feel insecure and we stop fulfilling the needs of our partner. This is the beginning of downfall!

Why do we feel insecure?

We expect our partner to be like us! When we say, ‘opposites attract’ or ‘every person is unique’, how can we expect another individual to think, feel, behave, react, etc., in the same way as we do? It is our unrealistic ‘expectations’ that lead to ‘disappointments’, giving way to the existence of our insecurities.

How do we deal with it?

Well, to be begin with… fall in love with yourself… so much so that others fall in love with you! ‘BE’ the ‘YOU’ that fulfills all your needs of being in a relationship, so that you continue to give the same to your partner and eventually receive the same in return.

It’s good to have expectations… but make sure you start with ‘self’. Make sure you have realistic expectations. Make sure you keep your communication pathways open… ‘Listen’ before you ‘speak’; ‘understand’ before you ‘think’.

This Valentine’s Day, let’s feel the ‘high’ in love without letting the baggage of ‘insecurities’ cloud its beauty. Let’s befriend our insecurities

Rohita Sateesh, is a psychological counselor and
runs a complete confidential Counselling Space called Talk Remedies, a Psychology, Psychotherapy and behavioural medicine private practice located in Indore, India. Rohita aims to empower individuals to discover their full potential, objectively guide clients, assist them to incorporate skills for a happy life. At Talk Remedies, individuals are free to explore themselves in a non-demanding and non-judgmental atmosphere and helps its clients improve their overall well- being by developing a rational mindset.

Please log on to www.talkremedies.com to know more.

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